Wednesday, June 5, 2013

helicopter parents

There are believe it or not positive and negatives to helicopter parents.  Now by no means are these parents the best, but I just wanted to try and cover both sides and look for comments.

  • At least these parents try to come and look like they care, these parents could just not show up at all.  
  • They are also at least trying to do what they think is best for their child, even though they may not know what is best.  


  • The parents do not really know their child or their needs.  
  • The parents are also not there when the child really needs them.
  • The parents may not know the student as well as the teacher does.
  • The child needs their parents there 24/7 not when their is just an emergency.
These are just a couple of positives and negatives, but if a child has a disability the worst thing in the world may be a helicopter parent.

Please leave feedback and you suggestions. 


  1. We, as teachers, see what our students can do and look for ways to offer the student more options.A good teacher will find an open window that interests the child and allow new thoughts to enter the learning process.
    I agree with your positives and negatives of a Helicopter Parent. Interesting that you have shown as an example, only two positive assessments and four negative conclusions.I would have found it difficult to have come up with even two positive views.Yes, these are only a few examples, but they are the first thoughts that surfaced from your mind.
    The guilt generated by a parent for your items listed as negatives, motivate the shallow attempts to display parenting, as you listed as positives.
    They, as parents,see what their children can do but expect their child to do what the parent is capable of doing. When it doesn't happen they don't offer support, instead they threaten to take away something that the child finds interest in such as music lessons, art or sports.This is constant variable with the Hovering Helicopter Parent, but make it clear, not to be compared to a good parent that is understanding and empathetic.
    Any thoughts on this subject would help us as well as our students and keep the Helicopter Parent from hovering over us.

  2. This seems counter-intuitive. But maybe I don't understand exactly what you mean by "helicopter parent". I guess I always thought of a helicopter parent as overprotective, very attentive, very hands-on parent.

    What do you mean by it?

  3. Hello Jim,

    I use the term in a negative narative, from my own experiences with an over achiever parent that has an under achiever child in failure mode. Sorry for the Wikipedia reference, but it does serve as an example.

    Def:Helicopter parent
    From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia
    A helicopter parent (also called a cosseting parent or simply a cosseter) is a parent who pays extremely close attention to a child's or children's experiences and problems, particularly at educational institutions. The term helicopter parent was originally coined by Foster Cline and Jim Fay.[1] Helicopter parents are so named because, like helicopters, they hover overhead.
    Contents [hide]
    1 Origins
    2 Literature
    3 See also
    4 References
    5 External links
    Origins [edit]

    The term "helicopter parents" is a pejorative expression for parents that has been widely used in the media.
    The metaphor appeared as early as 1969 in the bestselling book Between Parent & Teenager by Dr. Haim Ginott, which mentions a teen who complains: "Mother hovers over me like a helicopter..."[2]
    It gained wide currency when American college administrators began using it in the early 2000s as the Millennial Generation began reaching college age. Their baby-boomer[3] parents in turn earned notoriety for practices such as calling their children each morning to wake them up for class and complaining to their professors about grades the children had received. Summer camp officials have also reported similar behavior from parents.[4]
    The rise of the cell phone is often blamed for the explosion of helicopter parenting — University of Georgia professor Richard Mullendore called it "the world's longest umbilical cord".[3] Some parents, for their part, point to rising college tuitions, saying they are just protecting their investment or acting like any other consumer.[5]
    Literature [edit]

    Madeline Levine has written on helicopter parenting. Judith Warner recounts Levine's descriptions of parents who are physically "hyper-present" but psychologically absent.[6] Katie Roiphe, commenting on Levine's work in Slate elaborates on myths about helicopter parenting: "[I]t is about too much presence, but it's also about the wrong kind of presence. In fact, it can be reasonably read by children as absence, as not caring about what is really going on with them ... As Levine points out, it is the confusion of overinvolvement with stability." Similarly, she reminds readers that helicopter parenting is not the product of "bad or pathetic people with deranged values ... It is not necessarily a sign of parents who are ridiculous or unhappy or nastily controlling. It can be a product of good intentions gone awry, the play of culture on natural parental fears."[7]

  4. I think that Helicopter parents are only there when something goes wrong, they are not there to give positive feedback and sometimes they do not know their childs needs.